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No single factor puts a child at risk of being bullied or bullying others. Generally, children who are bullied have one or more of the following risk factors: Are perceived as different from their peers, such as being overweight or underweight, wearing glasses or different clothing, being new to a school, or being unable to afford what kids consider “cool”; Are perceived as weak or unable to defend themselves; Are depressed, anxious, or have low self esteem; Are less popular than others and have few friends; Do not get along well with others, seen as annoying or provoking, or antagonize others for attention.

Warning signs for bullying

There are many warning signs that may indicate that someone is affected by bullying—either being bullied or bullying others. Recognizing the warning signs is an important first step in taking action against bullying. Not all children who are bullied or are bullying others ask for help.

It is important to talk with children who show signs of being bullied or bullying others. These warning signs can also point to other issues or problems, such as depression or substance abuse. Talking to the child can help identify the root of the problem.

Signs a child is being bullied

Look for changes in the child. However, be aware that not all children who are bullied exhibit warning signs.

Some signs that may point to a bullying problem are:

  • Unexplainable injuries;
  • Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics or jewelry;
  • Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness
  • Changes in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals or binge eating. Kids may come home from school hungry because they did not eat lunch;
  • Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares;
  • Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork or not wanting to go to school;
  • Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations;
  • Feelings of helplessness or decreased self-esteem;
  • Self-destructive behaviors such as running away from home, self harm or talking about suicide.

If you know someone in serious distress or danger, don’t ignore the problem. Get help right away.

Why don't kids ask for help?

Statistics from the 2012 Indicators of School Crime and Safety show that an adult was notified in less than half (40 percent) of bullying incidents. Kids might not tell adults for many reasons, including:

  • Bullying can make a child feel helpless. Kids may want to handle it on their own to feel in control again. They may fear being seen as weak or a tattletale;
  • Kids may fear backlash from the kid who bullied them;
  • Bullying can be a humiliating experience. Kids may not want adults to know what is being said about them, whether true or false. They may also fear that adults will judge them or punish them for being weak;
  • Kids who are bullied may already feel socially isolated. They may feel like no one cares or could understand;
  • Kids may fear being rejected by their peers. Friends can help protect kids from bullying, and kids can fear losing this support.

Information provided by U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. 


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